Webinar summary -‘The Fiqh of Pregnancy with Shaykh Yaser Birjas’

5 05 2010

In the name of God, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ | Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Last Friday mumlovesme.com held a Q&A seminar, The Fiqh of Pregnancy Webinar with
Shaykh Yaser Birjas

It was wonderful and informative alhumduillah. For those of you who weren’t able to listen in it was for women discussing contraception and pregnancy. Here are a few details discussed that I feel would be useful for men and women alike… Although most questions will pertain to woman and I haven’t really dipped my feet into the contraception aspect inshaAllah this will be valuable for women and couples expecting or planning to have or adopt a child.

Can Muslims adopt?

Yes Muslims can adopt but they are not permitted to change the last name of the baby. If the baby does not have a name or the name is unknown it is recommended that you give them a separate last name as they will need their own identity. We must be honest: and the child must know they are adopted at the right age.

Can the baby call us mum and dad, or mommy, mama, ammi, abu, daddy, dada?

Yes, it is perfectly acceptable for them to call you their mother or father as long as they know you are not their biological parent(s).

Can the child or baby be a mahram?

A mahram is a legal term in Islamic law, relating to male relatives who are ‘unmarryable’ that is, you cannot marry them due to the relationship bond. Can the adopted child be a mahram? Yes, if the child is 2 or under and they are given 5 solid meals of breast milk from the mother (can also be pumped and fed through a bottle). No, if they are over the age of 2 even if fed the milk.

Can we use newly innovated medication to induce lactation

Yes, there is no problem doing this.

Can Muslims give up their babies for adoption?

No. Sorry!

Can Muslims use IVF or other doctor supervised methods to help conceive a child?

Yes as long as there are no third parties; the egg (ovum) must be from the wife, and sperm must be from the husband, no exceptions.

Can someone else carry mine and my husband’s child if I’m unable to?

No. Surrogacy is not allowed.

If I have or am able to have many children, and my sister is unable to do so, can I give her a baby?

This is a delicate situation and requires great care and consideration. If you have an abundance of children, let’s say 5, and your sister is unable to carry a child and you become pregnant again, your sister can in fact raise your child as long as the child knows they are being sponsored/raised by your sister for that reason. The child cannot be under the misconception that your sister is the biological mother, however she can raise the child like her own and even breastfeed the child. Wet nurses have been all the rage in Europe and America, it’s a dead culture now, but bring back wet nurses!

I am assuming there is a mutual understanding and agreement between you and your husband and your sister and her husband in this circumstance, and no issues will come of the placement of the child.

What happens if the baby is aborted after 4 months?

It’s classified in Islam as the same as a murder since the mother and family chooses to eliminate this life. If it is accidental or was unintentional it’s a different case and no blame must be on the mother. If possible the fetus must be given a name, washed and buried according to Islamic teachings. {we will discuss still born children/ miscarriages in a future post insha’Allah from personal experience and Islamic law}

Can Muslims have ‘baby showers’?

Yes, as long as they don’t try and associate any ritualistic religious practices with them of any Islamic teaching and they aren’t lavish.

Am I allowed to find out the gender of the baby before birth?

Yes, there is no Islamic issue with medical science using ultrasound to determine the sex of the baby.

Can women use medication during birthing to stop or control pain and does it affect the blessing given by Allah swt?

You can use medication and it shouldn’t affect the blessing by Allah, however Allah knows best.

When should a Muslim woman stop praying while pregnant?

When her water breaks! If in the course of labor she cannot pray due to intense pain or being bed ridden she can make up for them at a later date. Up until labor a woman can pray and should try to pray; if shess unable to pray standing she can sit, if she is unable to sit she can lay down. Just keep remembering Allah.

Is it true that a woman cannot leave her house for 40 days after the birth?

No. This is a cultural innovation and contrary to Islam’s freedom.

What Islamic teachings should follow the birth?

The adhan (call to prayer) should be recited in the baby’s right ear as soon as possible. The naming of the baby could be done around a week’s time but this isn’t a ruling. Boys are to be circumcised, celebrations should be held for the birth of all children; the slaughtering of two sheep for a boy and one for a girl is advocated by Islamic custom since Muslim men will be spending more on the women in their life when their older! The shaving of the baby’s head is also done around the 7th day. All of this is called an ‘aqeeqah‘. More details can be found on most Islamic sites as to exactly how these are done and how long after birth.

Can a pregnant or breastfeeding woman fast?

She should if she is able to. If she is unable to do so because of feeling week, dizzy, becoming ill or fearing for the baby then she must break her fast and make up for it at a later date. This also goes for the same if she is worried her milk production will decrease for the infant or dry up completely if the child is a little older. These fasts can even be made up years later inshaAllah.

There were many valuable questions about various topics relating to pregnancy and contraception. InshaAllah may we have more web seminars like this one; these are just a few answers that I have paraphrased or answered off the top of my head after listening to the web seminar.

JazakAllah Khair to Sheikh Yasir Birjas and mumlovesme.com for the valuable information.

Audio : 

http://mumlovesme.com/Fiqh of Pregnancy.mp3




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