Hadith of the day

30 04 2009

[Actions for the sake of Allah only]

Allah Almighty had said:

I am so self-sufficient that I am in no need of having an associate. Thus he who does an action for someone else’s sake as well as Mine will have that action renounced by Me to him whom he associated with Me.

It was related by Muslim (also by Ibn Majah).





The Story of a Man and a Pretty Women….

28 04 2009

Story of a man who goes to pray Jumuah but something else happens…

Wallahi, It’s a really good story to take a lesson from…

May Allah Ta’ala protect us from the fitna of this dunya.





Poem -The Pious Wife

26 04 2009

 The Pious Wife 

 

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Marriage to her is one half of the deen,
The benefit Allah has put in her is yet to be seen.
She wears her hijab for her Lord, to please and obey,
She turns to Allah for salaah at least five times each day.

She prays in the night and makes sure to awake you,
And sprinkles you with water if sleep should overtake you.
She protects her chastity with firmness because she does not desire,
To displease Allah and end up in the tormenting fire.

She asks the people who know when matters need to be rectified,
She is not blinded by self righteousness and foolish pride.
She is humble and kind to her husband as Allah has commanded,
Never leaving him alone, isolated, nor stranded.

She opens her mouth only to say what is best,
Not questioning her husband when he makes a request.
She takes care of herself and never ceases to try,
To beautify herself so to please his eye.

She is a pleasure Allah has given to us in this life,
Be thankful to Allaah alone for His blessing, THE PIOUS WIFE.

 





Anger

26 04 2009

Anger

Narrated ‘Abdullaah bin ‘Umar  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him that Allaah’s Messenger , , said: “No one does anything more excellent in the sight of Allaah, The Great and The Glorious, than restraining his anger, seeking to please Allaah.” [Ahmad and At-Tirmithi]

Murphy’s Law is commonly known as: “Anything that can go wrong, will.” However, what about the emotional and physical state of the person for whom everything that can go wrong has gone wrong? For example, when something goes wrong in an organization, it is the leader who is held responsible. If the mistake is costly, whether in time, money or reputation this puts stress and pressure on the one in charge. This will undoubtedly lead to a degree of anger based on the magnitude of the results of the mistake.

 Anger is a natural response. But, is it avoidable? Should it be avoided at all costs? Is it harmful? Sulaymaan bin Sard  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him said: “I was sitting with the Prophet , when two men argued and one of them became so angry that his face became swollen and changed…” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]. It is clear from the above-mentioned narration that people are physically affected by anger. In terms of health, on-going states of anger have been linked with muscular tension, stress and adverse long-term affects on mental health. Although situations that cause anger are not always avoidable, anger can and should be controlled. A person who becomes angry may become irrational and say or do something regretful. When anger becomes a habit without efforts to control it, a person will face great difficulty in building quality interpersonal relationships.

Prophet Muhammad , was tested by the stubborn and ignorant people around him. He was exposed to ridicule and harassment. His followers were oppressed and unjustly punished for accepting Islam. The Prophet , himself was the subject of physical and emotional abuse by the Arabs in Makkah. However, there are no records of the Prophet ever abusing an individual, losing his temper, or becoming angry (outside of issues of religion).

The Prophet , advised his followers to control their anger at all costs. Even at the climax of war, he advised them to deal with prisoners with mercy and compassion. Abu Hurayrah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that Allaah’s Apostle , said: “The strong is not the one who overcomes people by use of his strength, rather he is the one who controls himself while in anger.” [Al-Bukhaari] Among his directives, he , stressed the importance of not killing children or the elderly, burning villages or cutting down trees. There was also a high degree of respect for the modesty of women and as a result, there was not a single case of rape reported in his time. How was this possible? Is it indeed possible for people to suppress their anger, if so, how?

One of the best ways for a person to control his anger is by becoming more aware of his own personal habits. Quite often, in the midst of a heated discussion, a person’s muscles start to become tense and the pulse increases rapidly. When this happens, it is possible that the person will become angry and irrational. The Prophet , has advised us that paying attention to these physical signs is very important. He , said: “Beware of anger, for it is a live coal on the heart of the son of Adam. Do you not notice the swelling of the veins of his neck and the redness of his eyes?” [At-Tirmithi]

Prophet Muhammad , also emphasized the importance of relaxing one’s muscles. He , suggested the following: Narrated Abu Tharr  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him: “The Messenger of Allaah , said to us: ‘When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down’.” [Abu Daawood]. The idea here is simple: the person must change the circumstances under which he first became angry. If his muscles have become tense and he has started to become angry while standing, then sitting down will require a relaxation of the muscles, while at the same time it will change the setting of the discussion. Also, getting up and performing ablution will help to alleviate the anger.

Narrated Atiyyah As-Sa’di  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him: “Abu Waa’il Al-Qass  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him said: “We entered upon ‘Urwah bin Muhammad bin As-Sa’di  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him stood and performed ablution; he then returned and said: ‘My father told me on the authority of my grandfather ‘Atiyyah who reported the Apostle of Allaah , as saying: `Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution`.” [Abu Daawood].

In addition, the person must be aware of the kinds of situations and settings that make him angry. One source of frustration is being too busy to realize the kinds of situations that can cause anger and not taking the necessary precautions to avoid them. For example, if an employee is consistently late in submitting reports or is careless in the appearance of the reports, and this angers the leader, the problem is not necessarily caused by the staff member. Why? Simple: The leader must take the necessary steps to train the employee about what is required, so as to improve the work situation and avoid repeating the same stressful situation in the future. The leader can also learn to manage his reaction towards the staff member. One key to controlling anger is for a person to know what sets off the anger inside him and then is able to control it. Narrated Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him: “The Prophet , mentioned anger, saying: ‘Some are swift to anger and swift to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other; some are slow to anger and slow to cool down, the one characteristic making up for the other; but the best of you are those who are slow to anger and swift to cool down, and the worst of you are those who are swift to anger and slow to cool down.’” [At-Tirmithi]

Another important element in controlling anger is not to allow frustrations to build up without adequate attention. A leader may spend a lot of time dealing with people. Each interaction may cause the leader some frustration. If he has no way of dealing with the stress of each situation as it occurs, then the leader will find himself at the brink of anger for even the most trivial situations. This sort of awareness places great pressure on the leader to constantly pay attention to his own emotions. What is he feeling? Is something frustrating him? If so, what is it? Is it something that can be immediately changed? If not, the leader must explore what can be done to help alleviate the situation, at least temporarily. Throughout the day, the leader must take inventory of his feelings towards the staff and towards particular situations. In addition, the leader must try to not let anger build up throughout the course of the day and when dealing with different situations.

Taking time out for prayer is one way to break the tension and relieve the stress that brings on anger. If taking a break to pray is not possible then stopping to make Du’aa’ can help. Being aware of one’s own personality will not only allow a person to function better, but also enable him to control his anger regardless of the situation.   

Summarized from: Al-Jumu’ah

 

Anger 101: Do Not Get Angry

Posted by Muhammad Alshareef at 8:28 AM
Tuesday, October 22nd, 2007

Something making you a little angry? In this short presentation you will learn from the Sunnah how to quickly and easily remedy the anger.

 





Why Women Cry

26 04 2009

 

Why Women Cry

Author Unknown
Why women cry, a short storyA little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?”

“Because I need to” she said.

“I don’t understand,” he said.

His mother just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”

“All women cry for no reason,” his dad answered carelessly.

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). “He surely knows the answer”, he thought.

“Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?”

The Shaikh answered:

“When Allah made the woman she had to be special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

He gave an inner strength to endure both childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

He gave her a toughness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her badly.

He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers.

You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”





The 99 Names and Attributes of Allah

26 04 2009

The 99 Names and Attributes of Allah

It is not possible to perfectly translate the names and attributes of Allah from their original Arabic into English. However, here are some fairly close explanations.

Allah: He who has the Godhood which is the power to create the entities.

Ar-Rahman: The One who has plenty of mercy for the believers and the blasphemers in this world and especially for the believers in the hereafter.

Ar-Rahim: The One who has plenty of mercy for the believers.

Al-Malik: The One with the complete Dominion, the One Whose Dominion is clear from imperfection.

Al-Quddus: The One who is pure from any imperfection and clear from children and adversaries.

As-Salam: The One who is free from every imperfection.

Al-Mu’min: The One who witnessed for Himself that no one is God but Him. And He witnessed for His believers that they are truthful in their belief that no one is God but Him.

Al-Muhaymin: The One who witnesses the saying and deeds of His creatures.

Al-‘Aziz: The Defeater who is not defeated.

Al-Jabbar: The One that nothing happens in His Dominion except that which He willed.

Al-Mutakabbir: The One who is clear from the attributes of the creatures and from resembling them.

Al-Khaliq: The One who brings everything from non-existence to existence.

Al-Bari’: The Creator who has the Power to turn the entities.

Al-Musawwir: The One who forms His creatures in different pictures.

Al-Ghaffar: The One who forgives the sins of His slaves time and time again.

Al-Qahhar: The Subduer who has the perfect Power and is not unable over anything.

Al-Wahhab: The One who is Generous in giving plenty without any return.

Ar-Razzaq: The One who gives everything that benefits whether Halal or Haram.

Al-Fattah: The One who opens for His slaves the closed worldy and religious matters.

Al-‘Alim: The Knowledgeable; The One nothing is absent from His knowledge.

Al-Qabid: The One who constricts the sustenance by His wisdom and expands and widens it with His Generosity and Mercy.

Al-Basit: see above

Al-Khafid: The One who lowers whoever He willed by His Destruction and raises whoever He willed by His Endowment.

Ar-Rafi’: see above

Al-Mu’iz: He gives esteem to whoever He willed, hence there is no one to degrade Him; And He degradeswhoever He willed, hence there is no one to give Him esteem.

Al-Muthil: see above

As-Sami’: The One who Hears all things that are heard by His Eternal Hearing without an ear, instrument or organ.

Al-Basir: The One who Sees all things that are seen by His Eternal Seeing without a pupil or any otherinstrument.

Al-Hakam: He is the Ruler and His judgment is His Word.

Al-‘Adl: The One who is entitled to do what He does.

Al-Latif: The One who is kind to His slaves and endows upon them.

Al-Khabir: The One who knows the truth of things.

Al-Halim: The One who delays the punishment for those who deserve it and then He might forgive them.

Al-‘Azim: The One deserving the attributes of Exaltment, Glory, Extolement,and Purity from all imperfection.

Al-Ghafur: The One who forgives a lot.

Ash-Shakur: The One who gives a lot of reward for a little obedience.

Al-‘Aliyy: The One who is clear from the attributes of the creatures.

Al-Kabir: The One who is greater than everything in status.

Al-Hafiz: The One who protects whatever and whoever He willed to protect.

Al-Muqit: The One who has the Power.

Al-Hasib: The One who gives the satisfaction.

Aj-Jalil: The One who is attributed with greatness of Power and Glory of status.

Al-Karim: The One who is clear from abjectness.

Ar-Raqib: The One that nothing is absent from Him. Hence it’s meaning is related to the attribute ofKnowledge.

Al-Mujib: The One who answers the one in need if he asks Him and rescues the yearner if he calls upon Him.

Al-Wasi’: The Knowledgeable.

Al-Hakim: The One who is correct in His doings.

Al-Wadud: The One who loves His believing slaves and His believing slaves love Him. His love to His slavesis His Will to be merciful to them and praise them:Hence it’s meaning is related to the attributes of the Will and Kalam (His attribute with which He orders and forbids and spoke to Muhammad and Mu sa -peace be upon them- . It is not a sound nor a language nor a letter).

Al-Majid: The One who is with perfect Power, High Status, Compassion, Generosity and Kindness.

Al-Ba’ith: The One who resurrects His slaves after death for reward and/or punishment.

Ash-Shahid: The One who nothing is absent from Him.

Al-Haqq: The One who truly exists.

Al-Wakil: The One who gives the satisfaction and is relied upon.

Al-Qawiyy: The One with the complete Power.

Al-Matin: The One with extreme Power which is un-interrupted and He does not get tired.

Al-Waliyy: The Supporter.

Al-Hamid: The praised One who deserves to be praised.

Al-Muhsi: The One who the count of things are known to him.

Al-Mubdi’: The One who started the human being. That is, He created him.

Al-Mu’id: The One who brings back the creatures after death.

Al-Muhyi: The One who took out a living human from semen that does not have a soul. He gives life bygiving the souls back to the worn out bodies on the resurrection day and He makes the hearts alive by the light of knowledge.

Al-Mumit: The One who renders the living dead.

Al-Hayy: The One attributed with a life that is unlike our life and is not that of a combination of soul, fleshor blood.

Al-Qayyum: The One who remains and does not end.

Al-Wajid: The Rich who is never poor. Al-Wajd is Richness.

Al-Majid: The One who is Majid.

Al-Wahid: The One without a partner.

As-Samad: The Master who is relied upon in matters and reverted to in ones needs.

Al-Qadir: The One attributed with Power.

Al-Muqtadir: The One with the perfect Power that nothing is withheld from Him.

Al-Muqaddim: The One who puts things in their right places. He makes ahead what He wills and delays what He wills.

Al-Mu’akhkhir: see above

Al-‘Awwal: The One whose Existence is without a beginning.

Al-‘Akhir: The One whose Existence is without an end.

Az-Zahir: The One that nothing is above Him and nothing is underneath Him, hence He exists without aplace. He, The Exalted, His Existence is obvious by proofs and He is clear from the delusions of attributesof bodies.

Al-Batin: see above

Al-Wali: The One who owns things and manages them.

Al-Muta’ali: The One who is clear from the attributes of the creation.

Al-Barr: The One who is kind to His creatures, who covered them with His sustenance and specified however He willed among them by His support, protection, and special mercy.

At-Tawwab: The One who grants repentance to whoever He willed among His creatures and accepts his repentance.

Al-Muntaqim: The One who victoriously prevails over His enemies and punishes them for their sins. It maymean the One who destroys them.

Al-‘Afuww: The One with wide forgiveness.

Ar-Ra’uf: The One with extreme Mercy. The Mercy of Allah is His will to endow upon whoever He willedamong His creatures.

Malik Al-Mulk: The One who controls the Dominion and gives dominion to whoever He willed.

Thul-Jalal wal-Ikram: The One who deserves to be Exalted and not denied.

Al-Muqsit: The One who is Just in His judgment.

Aj-Jami’: The One who gathers the creatures on a day that there is no doubt about, that is the Day of Judgment.

Al-Ghaniyy: The One who does not need the creation.

Al-Mughni: The One who satisfies the necessities of the creatures.

Al-Mani’: The Supporter who protects and gives victory to His pious believers. Al-Mu’tiy The Withholder.

Ad-Darr: The One who makes harm reach to whoever He willed and benefit to whoever He willed.

An-Nafi’: see above

An-Nur: The One who guides.

Al-Hadi: The One whom with His Guidance His belivers were guided, and with His Guidance the living: beings have been guided to what is beneficial for them and protected from what is harmful to them.

Al-Badi’: The One who created the creation and formed it without any preceding example.

Al-Baqi: The One that the state of non-existence is impossible for Him.

Al-Warith: The One whose Existence remains.

Ar-Rashid: The One who guides.

As-Sabur: The One who does not quickly punish the sinners





The Most Improtant Lessons Of Hajj

25 04 2009

Auto Hajj: The Most Important Lessons of Hajj

Posted by Muhammad Alshareef at 4:00 PM
Wednesday, November 14th, 2007

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A Womens Guide to Hajj by Mohammed Alshareef